Sometimes When A Door Closes An Entire Universe Opens

When we close a door we do not do it out of pride and even less out of cowardice. We do it because what is invested does not fit with what is received, because there is no desire left, because the puzzles, the spirits, the dreams no longer fit. That is when it is time to cross the threshold of fear to open other doors.

Now, although we are more than used to hearing that when “one door closes another opens”,  there are nuances to take into account. Those entrances, those new universes of opportunities do not appear by magic. You have to go looking for them, you have to promote them and put in place certain internal mechanisms so that this happens.

All of us suffer, at times, the irremediable habit of tuning into the same emotional channel : that of suffering, that of attachment to what was lost, the memory of what was not achieved, and that of the bitterness of so many disappointments experienced. Somehow, and bearing in mind all this abyss of complex emotions, what we often do is leave countless doors open with the “just in case” sign .

However, we must stop to feel one thing: the breeze that those half-open doors bring. It is a cold wind with the smell of stagnant time, dry tears, unfulfilled dreams, and where also, from time to time, the echoes of those voices that once hurt us arise.

It is necessary to close them, for our balance and emotional health.

The door that we dare not close

Before talking about those universes that open behind many doors that bear our name, let’s first delve into the ones that we have not closed. What does it actually mean to end a cycle, a stage, leave a job or even end a relationship?

Above all, it means knowing how to resign, and resignation is something that no one has prepared us for. Society itself and even the education we have received have always convinced us that we can have it all without giving up anything.

However, if we think about this delicate act of courage for a moment, we will realize that the very act of maturing, growing and obtaining a certain quality of life implies learning to close doors, all those doors that brought us nothing. nice.

Life itself forces us to have to make decisions constantly. Because to be happy, let’s not forget, you have to make decisions. Now, if we do not dare to cross those thresholds to slam a definitive slam on what hurts, what does not fit and wears us out, what we renounce is our own happiness.

Because let’s not forget, happiness is priceless, it has rules, and one of them is daring to be brave. Existor is, after all, forcing ourselves to move forward, it is putting one foot in front of the other, while our hearts open to new opportunities with a dose of integrity and a lot of courage.

Strategies to finish a stage and find a new personal universe

Closing a door is not exactly easy. Because somehow, we not only leave behind what makes us unhappy, sometimes we are also forced to give up certain things that did identify us, that were ours and made us happy.

Let’s see in detail what these strategies would be.

• Practice personal responsibility through internal dialogue with yourself. Ask yourself what holds you, what stops you from taking the step when it comes to closing that door. Define your fears, name them, and try to rationalize them. Also ask yourself if in a few years you would like to be in the same place you are now.

• Become aware of your strengths. You have talents, emphasize your virtues, your values, your achievements. Also, remember that your strengths are also the people who really support you and love you.

• Make a plan for your immediate future. Visualize where and how you would like to be in half a year. Surround yourself with that positive feeling that accompanies those images. Take breath from them.

• Go free of charge. Leave them all, go forward with a bare heart, a tempered mind and awake eyes. Walk without hatred, without grudges and without those stones that we often carry on our backs and that make us sick with their emotional weights, making us captives.

Close the door and simply look around you with renewed illusions. You are one more star in that universe looking for new and wonderful opportunities. Do you already sense them?