Behind Many Of Our Excesses Hide Our Emptiness

Our emotional emptiness reminds us that there is something we cannot complete, something that fills us with instability and frustration. We can try to fill that void with excesses, drinking alcohol until the senses are clouded, pounding ourselves in the gym, emotionally eating or compulsive shopping, but the feeling of hopelessness after performing these behaviors will continue or even increase.

The feeling of emptiness can produce emotional blockage, which is what ends up preventing us from facing our reality, leading us to a life of disorder to cover our deficiencies.

The fight against the emotional emptiness is not easy, but the excesses are not the solution. A good part of the most negative emotions and sensations that we can experience come together, making us feel that we have submerged ourselves in a very deep well. These emotions produce a feeling of helplessness that appears when we are unable to react to painful situations.

When we give up everything for lost, excesses seem to us the only solution to complete ourselves. Any normal pleasant behavior becomes susceptible to psychologically addictive behavior. In fact, abnormal uses of normal behavior could be made depending on the intensity, the frequency, the degree of interference in personal relationships.

Feeling unable to face our emptiness leads us to excess

Excesses control our behavior, even going so far as to manifestly deny this behavior. This vicious circle, in which excesses increase our emptiness, will  only end when we face what leads us to these “abandonment behaviors”.

When we are unable to react to problematic situations,  a barrier stands between us  and what we must face , which creates a breeding ground for excessive behaviors. There are some signs that warn us that we may be engaging in excessive behaviors to mask the reality that haunts us. Avoidance of activities, daily nervousness, fear and lack of motivation are the consequences of not facing our emptiness correctly.

Calling almost everything a necessity can be the big problem. Behind the needs are our voids and behind the voids are our excesses. Identifying the needs that condition us is crucial to understanding our gaps. A moderate need is normal and healthy, the problem occurs when that need becomes unstoppable.

You have to be brave to recognize what we lack

There is nothing better than getting to know each other to end our voids. Many of the people who come for consultation and who say they experience a great feeling of emptiness know themselves very little, they have not updated that vision that they once generated and which they often look at with nostalgia for a long time.

Being aware that they are different, that the years have passed; knowing that they are not the same as before but not knowing who they are now. When the feeling of anhedonia invades us and we do not know what is happening to us and / or why it is happening to us, it is time to act, to be brave and to recognize that something is not right.

Recognizing what we lack involves a deep reflection of our emotional needs, beyond the trivial, the material and what others expect of us. You have to be very brave to recognize that we are far from leading the life we ​​want or the life that we once scribbled on the horizon. Only a whole person is able to confess his faults and to acknowledge his mistakes.

Only a person who looks at each other with good eyes, and in that gaze puts affection, is in a position to accept himself and integrate his wishes into his identity, dynamic and mutant by definition, so that this fusion does not produce a dissonance.