If Those Who Really Know You Love You … Why Are You Afraid?

We are going to propose an experiment for which it would be good if you represented the results of it in percentages. Sometimes too many contradictions pile up in your head to see it clearly, so this will help you locate “data” and understand what happens with the fear of social contact that we have all felt at some time.

Review the people who have passed through your life. Of those that have really hurt you, of those that have simply been difficult to bear, of those that have caused you indifference or fear, of those that have caused you well-being and of those that have caused you euphoria and fulfillment.

If in the last two cases the percentage is considerable, think about whether this feeling has been reciprocal. They are the ones who love and respect you, just like you love them. There are many more people waiting for someone like you to come into their lives and they are a very good reason for the “bad guys” not to put an end to your desire to meet other people.

The sad thing is that many times a couple of blows are enough to transform us into that type of people who live by half, with the feeling that we have a lot to hide because sometimes some people thought that they had nothing interesting to show. However, where those few people saw nothing, others saw in you the most wonderful thing that could happen to them at a given moment. Isn’t it time to shift the spotlight and use a scale that isn’t rigged to create fear?

If you judge yourself, try to be fair

Think about whether you are part of that group of people who have ever called at dawn, to whom more than once someone has told their most intimate secrets and to whom they have sought on several occasions to celebrate a great achievement. If they keep asking you how life is going after many years …

If they wanted to see you again, even if they had to change their schedule and be home late to do so . If you have a group of people who have made you answer yes, you are already lucky. Now, think: if you are able to awaken these kinds of sensations in others, why are you sometimes so afraid of social contact? Why are you still afraid to open up?

Whoever accumulates damages and focuses on them is hardly going to focus their attention on the group we are talking about. If this is your case (or that of someone you know), I propose a change of perspective. I ask that, in this trial that you have initiated, you also listen to those who love and respect you. Also, think about what would have happened if many of the wonderful people you have met had also chosen to protect themselves to avoid harm – you would hardly have enjoyed their company.

The pleasure of not caring for those who give us

Because it is a pleasure that I care about the people who care about me. Because it is delicious to share company with whoever contributes to me and matters to me. These sensations strengthen my interior, cancel the need for a wall that cuts off all types of communication with others.

No one has more influence in our lives than those we want to be by our side when we are happy, sick, melancholic, burdened, or eager to take a trip. That is doing life in company and not debating the meaning of our existence alone. That is walking stealthily and openly, learning that there are people passing through and others who lighten our path, who carry us in their arms having the sensation of flying.

Direct your attention to the correct group. This is not a sum of points, it is about multiplying the good experiences. Something that cannot be done by trying to make all our experiences fall in the zone and in the people of comfort or by focusing our attention on the people who failed us when they had our trust.

Your best cards have been given to you by the people who motivated you (and motivate you) to continue the game and never by those who cheated you. Direct your attention to what it contributes and matters to you. You have your rules and those of others will be different, but don’t let their influence bias your judgment. In this one, if you act as a judge, do not allow cheating, do not exclude the testimonies of the people who love you. Life is a source of danger, but it is also a luck in which our sentences make destiny. Ours and that of those we love.